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EVERYTHING YOU EVER

WANTED TO WRITE ABOUT SEX*  

*But where too breathless and demure to research! 

Hi, I hear that you're a big slut! Awesome, me too! 

 

 

 

 

 

Brief Digression into Manifesto: A call to action! Collaborative agenda towards sexual Hedonia here on FoolQuest.com Because these Racy Wring Resources are provided in part of ever greater undertaking.  Sexual advances and opportunities inevitably rouse the sex-negative specter of attachment disordered exploitation and rejection, alas that bring to sex, indeed even to mere desire, all such suspicion and ill repute. But that's not the fault of desire, let alone sex itself! Indeed, the vindication and rehabilitation of desire and sex, remains the fervent mission of redoubtable sexual liberation. "Lookism" be damned! We should all be just ravishing forever, don't you agree gentle reader? Many people so dearly crave better access to attractive prospective sexual and romantic partners. We all naturally crave stimulating novelty and excitement. People desire first of all themselves to become more sexually attractive and desirable in order more advantageously to facilitate more eager and exiting connections. Indeed we also desire a greater number of available prospective sexual and romantic partners who will likewise remain always maximally desirable, attractive, open minded and passionately interested. And simultaneously we all naturally need lasting, truly intimate and comforting emotional attachment. But can either such universal Utopian fantasy actually ever become feasible, let alone both together at once, without sacrifice? And how might any of this ever actually come about or be achieved? Therein to be discovered not merely serviceable premise for fiction, but actionable subversive agenda.  Invoking Pareto Principle, that proverbial twenty percent of the work to accomplishes eighty percent of the job, the two greatest prevailing and pandemic detriments to Hedonistic healthy physical attractiveness in the modern world, remain aging and obesity. The ongoing striving towards an aging cure, Emortality and perpetual youth, the eradication of natural death that inspires debilitating mortal terror, indeed much as has long been accomplished with such lethal pandemics as influenza and polio, lately yields ever more promising results; whereas the thin pill, Zinc Alpha 2 Glycoprotein, has long been discovered, completely effective and safer than diet and exercise, indeed actually a potentially life saving breakthrough in medical safety and gluttony without consequences! -And yet for fifty years or so languishing in obscurity, is still withheld from the public by the clearly indispensable yet ever dysfunctional Food and Drug Administration, with no human trials in sight. Not a hoax, not an imaginary story! And now  nannobubble water. Know more...        In the here and now however, it remains that most anyone can schedule an orgy, but getting anyone else even to attend, let alone actually to participate, might turn out easier said than done. Indeed, to most broadly paraphrase Olmstead, The more hot talk, the less actual carnality! Indeed, the struggle merely to recruit even one other suitable partner just to go out on a date at all, can often become all consuming! After all,  sexual / romantic fulfillment and success remain very much a factor of optimally functional social life and inclusive embedment, precisely wherein our society routinely and systematically fails so many of us.      In better alternative, what might an imagined and hoped for near future hold? Perhaps an evening of adult play in an intentionally stimulus rich environment to be named: Planet Frolic TM. Think of Bonkers or the Discovery Zone for adults too. Perhaps also with benefit of advanced automated Sociometry, a system of sophisticated profiling and matching for optimal compatibility, and CliqueBusters TM, the most radical known even proposed anti-bullying initiative for thwarting sexual harassment and exploitation very much including ubiquitous cockblocking and slut shaming.      So famously to quote Sigmund Freud: “Sex is everything!" And in the words of Anthony Burgess: “If you write fiction you are, in a sense, corrupted. There's a tremendous corruptibility for the fiction writer because you're dealing mainly with sex and violence. These remain the basic themes, they're the basic themes of Shakespeare whether you like it or not.”         Writing is like making love.  Don't worry about the orgasm, just concentrate on the process.   — Isabel Allende   The only good plot is a delayed fuck. — Louis B. Mayer   Nothing risqué, nothing gained. — Alexander Woollcott   A dirty mind is a joy forever. — Oscar Wilde more aphorisms

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Q. What is sex appeal? 

-Or, Was it Good for You Too? 

“All things in life are philosophical.”  — Aristotle

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• The truth about female desire: It’s base, animalistic and ravenous
•  The Dirty Little Secret of Feminine Desire...
• Optimal reciprocal engagement: Intellectual Stimulation & the Essence of a Woman

Yes, fun and silliness make for such a wonderful outlet in order to break the ice, socially. So why are they so hard to come by? For one thing, even the vest opening must lead to depth and substance of engaging meaningful fulfillment of human interaction. Another major problem is that anything to cultivate any type of vulnerability whatsoever, inevitably draws crackdown by cockblocking slut shaming prudes and bullies. Therefore, an entire culture is necessary in order to staunchly defend all such liberties, so that bullies won't find traction. Even in the very near future, optimal social integration may also best be fostered by automated Sociometry. In the here and now, advocacy of the engineering of such proposed intentional cultures is a part of CliqueBusters TM 

• Menschlichkeit: Is Chivalry dead?

Characters develop out of situation, and plot ideas emerge from characters in different situations and the actions undertaken because of their relationships and conflict on many levels, the friction entailed as characters come into contact, dramatic conflict on many levels, internal and external, Peripeteia in social connection as in the estrangement of the bullied idealistic whistle blower.

 Put the whistle blowers in charge!

All manner of situations, even quite unforeseen, may present any range of obstacles, from an empty bread box standing in the way of the perfect sandwich,  perplexing riddles and secrets denying truth, engineering limitations in the path of invention or a natural disaster barring very survival, but also, no less, a bad hair day spoiling Romance or a misunderstanding threatening love.

The dramatic efficacy of revealing and motivated subtext is in frustrated desire, giving rise to need and ingenuity. Drama is the gripping and engaging tension-laden presentation of conflict on many levels, whether or not the storyline is even believable. Drama is conflict inherent to situation, conflict being more than merely an event, but a condition, a relationship. Alas, however, beware! poor staging or presentation of conflict on any level dissipates inherent drama. No Powderpuff Pitty-Pat! Throughout the plot, every Technique of Suspense plotting is heightened as things are made more difficult, the personal emotional stakes are raised, and character growth is pressed by worsening complications for an active protagonist. So navigate the various possible paths and dead ends and to find stories always dig deeper for insight into struggle.

Each event in sequence that follows from motivated character action consistent with background, must in turn initiate from observable proximate stimus unless entirely emerging from inner life, and, either way, rather than simply remaining mysterious, known only the mind of the character, must one way or another be shown intelligibly to the audience, even if none of any other characters; either way, in turn, quite probably another vitally important plot point. Whenever the cause and effect chain ever omits such links, expect plot holes stumbling amid succession of unrelated events.

Eros:

Psychological asymmetry simply means that we are not so odd, but only strangers. And so we wallow each in our own pervasive and inexhaustible reservoirs of secret anxiety and vulnerability, never suspecting much the same of others beneath ever crumbling facade of exterior presentation. And in the words of Toni Morison: “The ability of writers to imagine what is not the self, to familiarize the strange and mystify the familiar, is the test of their power.”  For as Eve Tushnet expounds in ‘Eros and Education,’  even so integral and elemental a vital impulse as sex is meaningful expression of Eros, more than the quest for completion and transformation, the oft frustrated desire for connection, with full complicity in psychological visibility in order to penetrate psychological asymmetry, less of co-validation in similarity, than quite the opposite, liberating union with alien difference, inevitably first demanding resolution out of conflict on any level arising from whatever dread of the vulnerability entailed. "Pleasure is terrifying because it breaks down the boundaries between people. Embracing passion means living with fear."  writes Erica Jong in: 'The Zipless Fantasy'. Even Active Reading and listening are indeed far from passive. Intellectual and interpretive participation entailing construction of alternative narratives, imagination and visualization, requires adjustment of emphasis to suit one's own interests, and assembly of the story or information into whatever the cognitive schemata and context that make up one's own systems of knowledge and belief. But indeed as Eve Tushnet concludes: "A union in which one partner is not vulnerable is an invasion; if neither partner submits, it is an armed truce. [And] Neither of these experiences frees us from the tyranny [and intrinsic loneliness of self involved banality]." 

So inextricable seems Eros with the conflict on so many levels that is engendered as often to be associated with Eris (Discord) and even Ares the god of war. Perhaps hence,  foremost among sexual fantasies with great popular appeal are the stand by Archetypes of Romance including Dangerous Heroes and Soldiers, or challenging aid distant macho personalities such as airplane pilots. In the words of James Dickey: “The true feeling of sex is that of a deep intimacy, but above all of a deep complicity.”  Sex can be subversive.

Indeed, as Eve Tushnet expounds in ‘Eros and Education,’ Eros, so enticing and so threatening, is no complacent and unquestioningly likeminded fearfully conflict avoidant uncritical willful positivity and superficial harmony, but rather to the contrary, nothing more or less than profound reciprocal engagement and connection traversing into profound alien difference. — Off guard and drawn in, ideas, experience, new and uncanny subjective perception, the familiar made strange, and the strange familiar, Ontology, Phenomenology, poetical Axiology, very identity and all. Indeed, what then can there ever be the more utterly subversive and disruptive than the core motivation that is named: Eros? For close human relationship is Eros which is transport in liberating union with alien difference also called: psychological visibility that penetrates psychological asymmetry.

However, indeed as Eve Tushnet concludes: "A union in which one partner is not vulnerable is an invasion; if neither partner submits, it is an armed truce. [And] Neither of these experiences frees us from the tyranny [and intrinsic loneliness of self involved banality.]"  And exactly such is the blithe provinciality of anachronistic present day assumptions and sensibilities so lamentably typical of sheer hack writing!

Q. What is tension?

A. Tension, every Technique of Suspense plotting, anticipation, clues and doubt as to the outcome, hence pathos and, leave us face it, discomfort and aversion, may arise even from mystery, onstage sex appeal, the unknown, opportunity and/or threat, conflict many levels with an obstacle, events unfolding or outcome in any way in doubt. Tension is stress, and the innate or conditioned emotional, neurochemical and physiological preparative change or stress response to challenge, stimuli or stressors may be either distress and dread as to threat and emergency or eustress, the euphoric stress of pleasant anticipation, even sexual tension or the demands of pleasant activities in general, creativity, power and opportunity.

Even humor or comic relief depends upon foreplay, tension from an insecurity brought to a resolution or climax called the punch line, that may be either surprising or else even obvious and anticipated, just so long as the tension builds and then crests. Teasing, well meaning or otherwise, also cultivates and builds stress, tension. So does flirtation, but likewise manipulation, rejection or indifference and harassment or threat. Tension, stress, can be either dystress or eustress:

'The Nature of Stress' by Hans Selye

 

After all, life itself is energetic stress within organic matter.

“The only escape from stress is death.”

 

Indeed, actually increasing eustress turns out to be fundamental to so many of our pleasures of a life well lived,, from the anticipatory suspense enjoyed in Creative Tension, drama and comedy, even to the relief experienced from deep tissue massage.

• Damsel in Distress: Techniques of Suspense plotting

Every plotting Technique of building Suspense depends upon pacing, and for greater tension, show don't tell, and never throw the emotional circuit breaker. By every Technique of Suspense plotting, the rising tension and of dramatic conflict signifies that the resolution of whatever the central problem is such as to increasingly press character(s) inevitably to take action in struggle with whoever or whatever the antagonist in some way that must one way or another bring the very values of said character(s) into question for them.

Or, most dramatically, an attempt at howsoever the wiser course may instead press a character into conflict on every level with their own motivating values for which they will be compelled to sacrifice the easier way because the moral course and the more difficult among free willed choices may so often coincide.

Of course, neurochemistry is bound to reflect changing emotion. But there are also clear special cases of the reverse, of emotion instead subordinate to neurochenical fluctuation, as for examples: puberty and menopause. Hence, arguing from sheer stubborn lack of imagination and circuitous reasoning, simply ignoring rather than howsoever investigatively eliminating all that is well known applicably regarding traumatic and environmental causation, springs forth the myth of endogeny, of congenital neurochemically spontaneous anxiety or even Existential depression, among other chronic cognitive or emotional states, together with the Stress Vulnerability Model of Psychiatric Disorders being flawed only in how what is called: biological vulnerability is, again, no determinant on it's own, being, of course, actually universal and even generally uniform in the human condition. Indeed, clearly the determinant is nurture, not nature or: nature via nurture [Matt Ridley]. Obviously, neurological heredity, biological evolved behavioral genetic nature, only and fairly consistently enables the Empirical capacities for learning by encoding from the Phenomena, from experience, from nurture, to begin with. Experience is also now understood to trigger epigenetic change in genetic expression. Fraudulent obfuscation and denial to the contrary on either count, are only the current preferred high powered junk science marketing tactic of the Psychopharmacolical industry, pandering to compassion burn out and desperation, "soullessly" mocking and trivializing such cherished illusions as the yearning for understanding and with them all Philosophically meaningful values arising from the deep wellsprings of human emotional needs. Whereas it used to be that when a patient complained of anxiety out of the blue with no trigger, administering the old talking cure, the Therapist would gently ask the patient what they just happened to be thinking of at the time, however supposedly unconnected to whatever mysterious attacks from out of the blue, and guide them past their denial into catharsis and insight. Instead, disregarding the mind still leaves the physical brain, therefore Behaviorism is routinely called into service in standing support of neurochemical Reductionism along with the myth of endogeny, comprising the long refuted blanket rationale for so often reckless Psychopharmacology.

A concept so readily debunked as a social construct, 'race,' so-called, a most egregious iteration of the same the myth of endogeny. stands as prime example of a a deliberately ambiguous and slippery weasel word, sheer doublespeak, in so far as the word 'race' is so blithely employed actually to suggest species, while evading open and explicit commitment to such blistering absurdity, belief and atrocity, lest it collapse under its own weight. After all, there is only one human species, such minor regional ethno-phenotypic variation notwithstanding.* [*See also: "race' in Science Fiction]

Q. What is creative tension?

Q. What is Sexual tension?

“The only way to resolve a situation with a girl is to jump on her and things will work out.”  — Lee Marvin

Stories and scenes are made memorable not merely in whatever empathy or curiosity merely as to the plot situation, but because of the reader or audience relationship, actual motivated feelings elicited for or even against the characters.

• The Battle of the Sexes

No matter the tone or attitude, atmosphere or ambiance, as evoked by the perfect setting, by Writing from the Senses, SUBTLE AND sensuously, with some reference to sensory perception in every paragraph, describing not only what a character sees, but hears, smells, tastes; the wind on his or her skin, the drone of insects, whatever, for richness of texture the senses remain key to Techniques of Suspense plotting and particularly to building onstage sexual tension and even aversion. Therefore, details of reflection, perception and experience must be chosen to draw out the moment that the reader may in turn be drawn into whatever the ambiance or other qualities of the passage or sequence, whichever point in the narrative.

Inevitably, to show or evoke characterization, wherein motivation should be apparent, even through thoughts, however expository, onstage sex appeal may dramatically motivate conflict on many levels, emerging through subtext, What Lurks Beneath and body language, all shown by way of each of the senses in setting, action and atmospheric tone along with the Subtle and Delicate Art of Doublespeak dialogue, may either harmonize with text, or in true Method subtext, all even disagree with text, subtly, so as to draw attention into a  deeper vein or level of conflict by being subtly wrong, with the obstacles to love promoting sexual tension; love, hate, desire, attraction, increasing the tension and pathos of every Technique of Suspense plotting and anticipation, even discomfort and aversion, character conflict on many levels among the dramatis personae, within society, against fate or simply oneself, building upon levels of inner conflict, stress, desperation, indecision and frustration that must culminated either in resignation, despair, resolve or madness, not to mention Transference and the compelling transport of high fantasy reaching From Werewolf Sex To Bunny Love, not just Writing Love scenes, or if one prefers, Quality Sex  scenes, but everything from the 'rules' for romance writing offering concise guidance for the dramatic plot structure of melodramatic pandering affirming and empowering girl cooties, all as doubtless programmed into the Computerized Romance Writer and tomorrow's sexbots, to erotic rôle-play of the sage and sexpert advice of Susie Bright.

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“sex is everything!” — Sigmund Freud

 “Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it's usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.”  — Jim Morrison

“Vanity, revenge, loneliness, boredom, all apply: lust is one of the least of the reasons for promiscuity”  — Mignon McLaughlin

“Whatever is done from love always occurs beyond good and evil” — Nietzsche

“Sex is hardly ever just about sex”  — Shirley MacLaine

 

Certainly, all manner of sexual clichés provide more than just the warning against tired prose, but also an insight into universal motivations, key to more than just passionate sex scenes as a writing exercise. Sexual response is both innate and cultivated. Sex elicits affect and entails context. Sex, from furtive eye contact up to the exchange of bodily fluids and every surrounding ritual, is imbued with meaning and values by civilization, personal associations by the individual, and biological imperatives by evolution.  Sex entails all that we are in all that we are. Sex brings out both the best and the ugliest. And thus, for believable characters involved in conflict on different levels and in situations that make any sense and advance the plot, sexual behavior ought to proceed from motivation and situation no less than anything else. 

Sex, as it is so often said, is natural. And that becomes the rationale for pandering, even if in the guise of affirmation and validation, propaganda outright. However, the begged question remains. Indeed, as is often asked, is sex necessary? - And, distinct from just life generally,  in works of culture, specifically...

No, of course not.

After all, there are videos of yarn to fascinate house cats! (For cats, as everybody knows, though some are quite affectionate, can often be of that particularly self sufficient temperament all their own.)

Indeed, any work bowdlerized and eviscerated becomes flaccid and desiccated, as stilted and inhuman as any moving lure for dumb animals. Believable and appealing characters, however "settled", must be motivated and behave and talk according to their relationships and sexroles of whatever milieu appropriate to the setting, even in the most cerebral of stories. 

Even eschewing anything remotely explicit or graphic, the red hot purple passion prose, no matter how tame or "child safe", in capable fiction sexuality of some kind still manifests itself. For the key in writing to any younger audience or any other tender sensibility, is never actually expurgation, but simply toning it down or transposition somehow, but seldom in truly eliminating every trace of sex. 

A story that isn't at all racy may only omit overt sexuality and strong undercurrents, not sexuality at all, which is an aspect of human nature, characterization, relationship and milieu, setting. After all, as the Good Book says, "the child is father to the man".

Certainly, all manner of sexual clichés provide more than just the warning against tired prose, but also an insight into universal motivations, key to more than just passionate sex scenes as a writing exercise.

Sex stimulates. Sexual response is both innate and cultivated. Sex elicits affect and entails context. Sex, from furtive eye contact up to the exchange of bodily fluids and every surrounding ritual, is imbued with meaning and values by civilization, personal associations by the individual, and biological imperatives by evolution.  After all, suicide bombers are actually just cranky! For even the praising saints and poets yearn to be ravished by God wooing humanity unto Rapture! For is not God's story is also a Romance? And where once they sought to share narcotic communion, one day soon they'll only want to jack into the Net!

Sex,  however, is also wrapped up in taboo, and not just anything that seems naughty and popular, but that which remains disturbing and dangerous, genuinely alarming and therefore, to make matters even worse, indeed also most convenient fodder for pigheadedly slanderous malicious gossip and persecution. Anyone who raises such alarm may then turn and demand, as if they had nothing whatsoever to do with it: Who does not see which way the wind now blows? A word to the wise: Why draw attention provoking their discomfort and disapproval by writing upon such squeamish topics? But rather, we need not so fret as to why anyone remains courageous enough to speak out. We all should. Bullies readily take ascent from silent passive bystanding, whether out of stunned confusion, apathy or cowardice extolled as prudence and sensitivity. Rather, like Socrates, let us demand: In open discourse and private reflection alike, why do those who evince such public concern and agitate the mob, not first fully ponder, investigate and write upon such issues as they pretend to be so concerned about? The most tiresome sheer anti-intellectual heteronomy is the reason: They wouldn't be caught dead, rationally formulating opinions of their own, when they are ever so relentless in manipulatively intimidating and enticing the masses not to think.

The entirely rational case for Polyamore and against Monogamy is deceptively simple: Some deem jealousy appropriate towards sex, but not platonic relationship, while others deem jealousy appropriate towards deep and abiding relationship, but not sex which they regard as trivial. In truth, however, the mensuration of mythic appropriateness is actually nothing more or less than rationalized and anticipated elicitation of insecurity. Relationship partners of whatever kind, isolating one another, only become ever more consumed with jealousy. But when both partners are fulfilled by the exercise of gratifying freedom of association without restriction or qualification, insecurity and jealousy may recede even unto negligibility. But reality is more complicated. For exactly as Thomas Szasz points out, in order to perform in accordance with whatever ones ideals, superficial behavior change is by far easier than real personal growth and change  And so, most people only undergo the latter, only going through the motions, remaining unchanged and therefore secretly guilt ridden. And this applies equally and symmetrically towards overcoming desire in order to become monogamist, and towards over coming insecurity and jealousy in order to embrace free love. Worst of all, many people who simply are not monogamist, are also overwhelmingly jealous and possessive. And this is a trap of no-win inner conflict, of intractable ambivalence motivating endless vicissitude of interpersonal conflict, resentment and dependency, in short: Melodrama. Everyone partakes of two kinds of stimus appetite, both the reassurance of the familiar and the novelty of new variety. Neither attachment disorder that frustrates ongoing bonding and intimacy, nor xenophobia that curtails life's explorations, are healthy or happy. Escape from any and all such neurosis is true Romance, the drama of achieving self acceptance in acceptance by someone else, and thereby rescuing one another.

 

 

 

Whither Innocence?

Uncomfortable themes

Why, even a real boy like Pinocchio, yearning for his Blue Fairy, may instead become beguiled and exploited by Dracula's daughter or even the pedophile Coyote spirit of traditional Native American cautionary fables! Or, more prosaically, in the course of growing up, any ordinary person might, likewise, simply become drawn, by a crush of any sort, to relate to anyone else more human, imperfect and complicated. Indeed, at the risk of seeming unduly Freudian, with all those big eyed bashful peek-a-boo, cuddly bump and tickle, what, exactly, is 'Teletubbies' but the most blatant and puerile porno for toddlers?! Brilliant in it's simplicity. Or has some narrative subtlety eluded me, here?

Kidding aside, 'Teletubbies', targeted at the youngest viewing audience ever in the history of television, is age appropriately educationally effective, precisely because preverbal tots do respond to stimulation. Indeed, the key in writing to any younger audience or any other tender sensibility, is never expurgation but simply toning it down or perhaps sublimation one way or another. 

And the point of truth in jest remains, that the appeal of 'Teletubbies' includes such attention, contact and expression that is only arbitrarily distinguished and divorced from that which may be deemed sexual foreplay, indeed such that Freud might well classify as infant sexuality, and without which babies are well known to actually and literally die from neglect and loneliness.  That is why, necessarily, controversy and ambivalence not withstanding, perception is shaped and boundaries are drawn not only for protection of the innocent, but also to define and allow some range of licit interaction at all throughout life, instead of complete isolation, or so one might hope.

Infant and childhood sexuality is often manifest in the intrinsically motivated initiative in entirely natural behavior of children, even passionate crushes and masturbation during infancy and childhood, all however natural, nevertheless awkward socially and therefore reshaped in parenting. All as any Pediatrician will so carefully and gently explain to you. Nevertheless, or so the theory goes, adults initiating sex with children and even pubescents, is to be so taboo because of the  danger of subversion of normal development by manipulative suggestion, much less influences of bribery and outright coercion, all in conflict of interests and abuse of trust in fiduciary relationship. The growth and psychological development of children, then, must be scrupulously non-directive. But no parenting in general, even comes close to that benchmark. Alas, in general, that is simply not how children are treated. Indeed, by that high standard, our educational system, so catastrophically destructive to autonomy lifelong, stands guilty of the most common, widespread and pervasive ongoing molestation of all time, even however Platonic, that has engendered in the population, a pandemic of lifelong generalized anxiety disorder, and all for our own good! The problem isn't with sex but with love, with coercion manipulatively rationalized and trust continually imposed upon, of intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation as ever, and the corruption that frequently attends upon power relations at all. Though all such gambits and conceits must be embraced more poetically than scientifically, attempt has even been undertaken to quantify tradeoff between freedom and security, Thermodynamically!

One even shopworn narrative cliché is of recovered childhood memory of a pedophile encounter, benign and even nurturing because of being completely non-directive and entirely at the initiative of drives of infant sexuality on the part of the child, rather than coercion, manipulation or naive trust in fiduciary guidance from the adult involved. Then the memory is allowed to recede into the child's unconscious so that the child can return to sexual latency and normal development. Indeed there is precisely such a trope appearing in a scene in the works of the master of literary pandering, Robert Heinlein. Indeed, it all seems something perhaps of a somewhat strained variant of the dramatic single never to be repeated tryst in the wilderness of Tristram and Isolde, then put aside forever upon return to society replete with socialized roles and expectations in the court of King Mark. And yet, any such true to life claim may readily be dismissed as deep seated denial, and just such credulous revulsion in turn likewise dismissed as bigotry and limited imagination. Similarly, much as peyote usage is supposed to be rendered non addictive amid the extensive rites and guidance, behavioral structure, of the vision quest, indeed serving even all manner of beneficial Psychotherapy even including recovery from drug addiction, there is also the romanticized notion from Cultural Anthropology of very young sexual initiation, likewise safely enshrouded in meticulous ceremony and ritual and likewise providing behavioral structure ruling out not only doubt and distraction, but mixed signals to engender inner conflict. And in Science Fiction at its most pandering propagandistic, every taboo imaginable has been flouted in both glowing Utopias and in horrific cautionary Dystopias.

Kant's Categorical Imperative of morality: What if everybody did so? But then, would everybody want to? Incest and deformity are a trope of horror. Any effect of inbreeding, incestuous or not, actually tends to be almost negligible by itself, but cumulative in the practice over generations until if persisted, inbred strains eventually die out.  Although, it has even been speculated that the impact of generations of inbreeding, let alone incest, may be controllable by screening and abortion. Or better still, why not enhanced teratothanasia? Also, it would seem that the degree of adverse genetic impact may correspond to the degree of relation in incest, though Kissing Cousins Have More Kids.

Because of taboo, stigma and isolation, all manner of appalling living conditions needlessly fester in secret, including even generational incestuous deformity. Sociologically, endogamy is the custom of marrying only within the limits of a local community, clan, or tribe, or biologically, the fusion of reproductive cells from related individuals: inbreeding or even self-pollination. Cumulative inbreeding is practiced not only in smaller isolated communities, but insular clans and especially royalty. In antiquity around the world, royal brother-sister incest was was practiced, in emulation of mythically incestuous pantheons of deities from which royalty often claimed decent and even cobalt blue colored blood, like the six armed blue skinned Hindu deities descending from the Heavens. But the truth for kings and commoner alike, is less auspicious:

“That which doesn't kill me, makes me stronger.”  ― Friedrich Nietzsche

“That which doesn't kill me, makes me stranger.”  ― Æon  Flux

Throughout life, the massive human brain places considerable demands upon bodily resources, and yet it still is never enough. Hyperbaric medicine has discovered that barring intervention, none of us, no matter how normal and healthy, are actually ever getting quite enough oxygen to fully and optimally meet the needs of the brain. Human nature is so unnatural: Evolution of an ever larger brain was driven beyond the needs of adaptation to the environment, by competition within the species. Therefore, while all mammals contend with stimulus struggle, and with social stimulus struggle in particular, there are unique biological factors and features in the human condition, product of evolutionary neurology, pertaining to stimulus struggle with particular bearing upon social and intellectual stimulus struggle. Again, stimulus struggle is particularly acute in humanity, because of the evolution of the human brain, first in meeting the challenges of the natural environment, but then in competition within the species. The result was the human brain so exceeding of the challenges of nature, and consumed with unprecedented intrinsic motivations and biological purpose in the quest for meaning, all simply for staving off loneliness and boredom, even without such day to day violence and desperation as increasingly quelled by ever improving sociopolitical stability.

And all because the human species is so massively inbred, accentuating double recessive genetic mutations, thereby actually accelerating evolution. Long ago, the gene pool of our ancestors was narrowed when our species barely escaped extinction. After all, a concept so readily debunked, 'race,' so-called, stands as prime example of a deliberately ambiguous and slippery weasel word, sheer doublespeak, in so far as the very word 'race' is so blithely employed actually to suggest species, while evading open and explicit commitment to such blistering absurdity, belief and atrocity. Racism even advocates inbreeding, even identifying the degree of reproductive fitness and success, with degree of phenotypic similarity of parent and offspring, achieved by the degree of familial relation, in family trees that not only branch, but frequently converge. By such Narcissistic thinking, Racists parents are expected to only love their children as much as they look like them! But normal folks also cherish their children's resemblance to their beloved, the other parent, even howsoever exotic. And there is a clear survival advantage therein, to actually encourage the preservation of genetic diversity. Because, to reiterate,  any effect of inbreeding, incestuous or not, actually tends to be almost negligible by itself, but cumulative in the practice over generations until if persisted, inbred strains eventually die out.  Indeed, as any competent livestock breeder, had they dared the very thought, might have warned the Nazis, their intended campaign of global genocide might well conceivably have narrowed the human gene pool into extinction within mere generations! Although, it has even been speculated that the impact of generations of inbreeding, let alone incest, may be controllable by screening and abortion. Or better still, why not enhanced teratothanasia? Also, it would seem that the degree of genetic impact may correspond to the degree of relation in incest.

But to reiterate, regardless of skin tone etc. or gender for that matter, nevertheless we all share that same handful of key genetic birth defects, horrific inbred mutations and deformity, with all humanity, and every other chromosome with the chimpanzees as well. Indeed, there is only one inbred, genetically narrow, and therefore fairly uniform human species, all such minor regional ethno-phenotypic variation notwithstanding. All hence humanity is especially susceptible to inbreeding, and therefore doctrines of "racial" purity all the more more ill considered, and misogyny or "race-mixing", so-called, the saving grace of new blood defining and preserving humanity. Because as our forbears first diverged from the chimpanzee, not just trivial phenotypic variance, but those key human features first evolved in different geographical regions, where our forebears had migrated after their inbred numbers rose again from near extinction. Yet those defining paradoxically advantageous genetic mutations of horrific deformity propagated throughout the world, even when individuals remained settled near where they were born, populations enduring in reciprocal isolation.

Which brings us to incest and Eugenics: There has never been a real life Dr. Samuel Lann, selectively and occasionally even incestuously breeding improved human beings, to accentuate desired characteristics, just as with livestock, in the laboratory. Only, at most, failed Fascist breeding communities. Perhaps that's why extreme or specialized, let alone even nigh superhuman, characteristics emerge, and rarely, only perhaps from severe natural selection, but never Eugenically, no matter the monstrous Draconian measures that have forever blackened the history of Eugenics. The fundamental distortion that has so perniciously and mass murderously undermined Eugenics in practice from the beginning, is that animal husbandry deals, in painstaking care, with the screening, selection and pairing of individual breeders, whereas Racist pseudoscientific Eugenics has blithely sought to deal with vast human populations in grandiose over simplified broad strokes. The issue from incestuous pairings of livestock, are subject to stringent culling, planned infanticide certainly unthinkable with human babies, but routine with in vitro fertilization, where in only healthiest zygotes are selected for implantation. Not to mention that the option of artificial insemination would obviate any need of such awkwardness as incestuous physical congress. But perhaps that sidesteps too many provocative questions.

Neurosis begins as those wishes of a sexual nature are shamefully repressed in childhood,  from socialization in guilt ridden suppression of infant sexuality. Therefore, can it seriously be suggested or argued that incest and Pedophilia are traumatic only because of taboo? Where  incest and Pedophilia simply de-stigmatized, as a consequence, would trauma be eliminated or even at all diminished? Indeed, is such a disturbing hypothesis readily amenable to investigation, save by decidedly unethical experiment? And what notions could ever be so boundlessly handier for fictional exploration, Science Fiction thought experiment and general all around shock value!

From childhood sexuality stem the universal deep-seated incestuous longings of the Oedipus and Electra complexes, according to the theories of Sigmund Freud and Carl Gustav Jung respectively, castration anxiety and penis envy accounting developmentally for incest-avoidance. All therefore incest emotionally complicates trauma of coercion and abuse, especially towards the vulnerable, most especially, children. And a great proportion of child molestation is incestuous. Nevertheless, according to Margaret Mead, not rape, not pedophilia, and not the exploitation or abuse of children, sexual or Platonic, but incest in its own right, regardless of age, is the one taboo universal to all cultures. The incest taboo began after the advent farming, because sexual partnerships impact kinship hierarchy which became important when hitherto nomadic peoples first settled. The level of scorn and taboo of incest, is proportionate to the degree of familial relationship. The minimum acceptable distance may vary societally, as does application of the taboo also between in-laws. The maternal incest taboo is more ancient than paternal incest taboo, let alone between siblings. Sacred exceptions for supernatural entities such as gods and for royalty, purported gods on earth, are forgotten in the modern world.

Bigotry may cast aspersion of incest. The hated others may be slandered as mommy and daddy fuckers! Stock villain characters may be depicted as incestuous. Notwithstanding the manifest inconsistency, even inherently sterile homosexual incest is not exempt from the taboo. Both homosexuality and incest are sometimes identified with Narcissistic self involvement. So laden with tension and revulsion, the subject of incest is therefore naughty and hilarious! The forbidden fruit of incest is a favorite subject in pornography. The resolution of tension and conflict because of incestuous yearning, is enduring wish fulfillment fantasy, even resorting to surreal sleight of hand, as in the Fairytale of 'Cat-Skin', wherein incest is magically resolved by a series of costume changes. The plot logic demands such profoundly hallucinatory impaired memory, perception and judgment of all the characters! Indeed, in so many tales it becomes clear that ignorance is bliss, when it comes to the awful discovery of unwitting incest. But in the Fairytale of 'Cat-Skin', the reader or hearer is actually invited to join in taking leave of our senses!

Exploding the taboo of incest is ever handy for shock value and stirring the pot. Especially as regards taboo, those who vent moral revulsion all too often far too self-righteous to think and explain themselves. So how might the issue be cogently explained to an Anthropologist from Mars? Is incest wrong? Indeed, it has been suggested that the repression of any natural urges is just neurotic and unhealthy. Incest-avoidance theory notwithstanding, genetic sexual attraction is, to begin with, the all too common appeal of similar looking partners, and indeed, an intensely dramatic conflict, the even mesmerizingly powerful forbidden sexual attraction between close, even first degree, relatives, perhaps separated and only having only met for the first time as adults. -or not...

Transhumanism anticipates from technological progress a future of unrecognizable, not merely unforeseeable, change in culture and the human condition itself. Indeed, to make matters all the more awkward, the eradication of aging, generation and therefore order of lineage, will no longer be so obvious. Will attractive perpetual health and youth thus tempt Oedipal incest? Can that be the real fear that inspires the virulence of Deathism?

In Christian thought, sin is guilt being the awareness of sin. The murder and mayhem of the idiot Parcival, is no sin until he knows any better. In one tale, the mother of unwittingly incestuous sibling newlyweds, is court ordered with the burden of keeping the secret, never to tell them who they really are. Incest, taboo and abomination rivaled at all only in aversion to cannibalism, is a time honored subject of even ultimate horror and tragedy. The horror and tragedy of incest generally unfolding from individual shame and stigma within society, therefore seems at all self fulfilling, both in fiction and in reality.

Does precisely all such blatant shopworn mythology then remain the vexing pinnacle of human self understanding? What dangerous ignorance! Or Am I the only one in the dark? Even in optimistic stretch of theoretical imagination, and speaking of unethical experiment, given human frailty and inherent fiduciary conflict of interests, any stringent laboratory conditions of benign pedophilia would be no less utterly contrived than any tropic fiction. At least transition in public consciousness, from a tabooistic and traumatic rules-based socialization of children by those who know best, to sincere investigation into and respect for the sanctity of their own sensibility of comfort, does seem like genuine progress. Now if only that same principle can ever be applied to begin any serious reform of the ongoing Platonic molestation that is what passes for our educational system.

But even if utterly consistent harm from Pedophilia is not clearly demonstrable, any more than any psychological trauma can be reliably predicted no matter the vicissitude, the dangers associated with Pedophilia nevertheless remain manifest even if poorly understood and whatever the well debatable causes, reasons and explanation. Just imagine struggling to explain the human dangers of Pedophilia, say, to an Anthropologist from Mars! According to a certain extreme Individualistic perspective, infants and helpless mute idiots, should be deemed consenting merely by displaying pleasure. How simple and elegant! -Indeed, in truth, somewhat tidy and simplistic, quite without regard to complex unconsidered consequences in reality, especially under fiduciary obligation to the vulnerable. Likewise, every known theory in Cultural Anthropology, ideology or literary trope of possibly safe conditions for Pedophilia seems somehow of other over simplistic, unlikely, extremely contrived and romanticized, fancifully optimistic and impractical, smacking of the downright unrealistic. -And therefore remains, in a word, again: mythological: imaginary, the stuff of fable. Speculation raising healthy skepticism, nevertheless it all just needs work! In truth, we still have too far to go in rendering average family life and education anywhere near safe and wholesome, much less the cultural advent of any at all perhaps implausibly ideal harmless and nondirective non demanding Pedophile encounter and consummation in nigh transcendent consummate sensitivity, completely natural, impulsive, nondirective, initiated and motivated by the child.

Nevertheless, what still undeniably complicates the issue is that children, though clearly different from adults, are not actually asexual, and never have been, no matter what we are more comfortable pretending. Indeed, babies withheld all tactile affection simply die. It is even declared by bio-science that the comfort sought by a perfectly normal child curling up in the embrace of an adult care giver, if monitored and recorded with whatever sort of biosensors, might often physiologically qualify as sexual, even if the very distinction scarcely occurs in the innocent mind of the child, never emerging into consciousness. All that the latter signifies, however, is that the boundary between what is benign and what is dangerous to children, between what Freud calls: infant sexuality and pedophile exploitation, will likely never be quantifiable merely physiologically. Differentiation of the sexual or erotic from the chaste and Platonic then, isn't even to the point.

Machiavelli notoriously recommends in war and statecraft, seeking only weaker allies. But can that advice find similar application throughout the entire rage of personal relationships? Obviously not. The problem of avoiding all conflict of interest, is that any desirable personal asset one might seek in another, can also be turned against you or to take undue advantage. And this is a particular danger in child rearing because actual equality of knowledge and ability is impossible and not only impractical.  Indeed, the lines have been drawn so completely differently by different cultures throughout history. And culturally variable inconsistent arbitrary demarcation of the licit from the illicit is inadequate. The question remains: How ought we best see to both the safety and the physical and emotional needs of the vulnerable, and children in particular?

Here is one brave attempt at an answer:

 

Erotic Attunement:
Parenthood and the Ethics of Sensuality Between Unequals

University of Chicago Press, Jun 15, 2011 - Family & Relationships - 363 pages

Heightened awareness of the problem of sexual abuse has led to deep anxiety over adults touching children—in nearly any context. Though our society has moved toward increasingly strict enforcement of this taboo, studies have shown that young children need regular human contact, and the benefits of breastfeeding have been widely extolled. Exploring the complicated history of love, desire, gender, sexuality, parenthood, and inequality, Erotic Attunement probes the disquieting issue of how we can draw a clear line between natural affection toward children and perverse exploitation of them.

Cristina L. H. Traina demonstrates that we cannot determine what is wrong about sexual abuse without first understanding what is good about appropriate sensual affection. Pondering topics such as the importance of touch in nurturing children, the psychology of abuse and victimhood, and recent ideologies of motherhood, she argues that we must expand our philosophical and theological language of physical love and make a distinction between sexual love and erotic love. Taking on theological and ethical arguments over the question of sexuality between unequals, she arrives at the provocative conclusion that it can be destructive to completely bar eroticism from these relationships.

 

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May to December - some highly unoriginal thoughts

“You're only as old as the woman you feel.”  — Groucho Marx

 

As Sting makes such sly reference in song, Nabokov provocatively authored the classic of notoriety upon the theme of forbidden love, intergenerational fraternization in specific, an ever topical problem and relatable to all, a fear pervading society, a common place in reality, and a fantasy of considerable mass appeal: Hot for teacher? Are you my Lolita? Why then, just call me Hubert Humphries! Or to those who stand ever at the ready to demonize all the dirty old men and cougars, then call me Legion, for we are many!  An at all believable, interesting or sympathetic protagonist presents the reader that very challenge, simply by being, whereas as painting a villain merely panders propagandistically to moralistic outrage.  A good writer imbues a soul even into a murderously Sadistic Nazi character, let alone the everywo/man in the throws of the most ordinary and common tawdry temptation, love and taboo.

 

Squeamish as the truth may be, there is nothing to be gained in willful naivety: As an aspect of most any culture, one way or another, a common and normal part of entry into adulthood will be inevitable exposure and encounter by young people with adults that are not family members or officials, an event which is often highly sexually charged. Exactly what result must we expect, then? The coping options for any culture then range from hysteria, to formalized or unspoken control or even to open tolerance. And somewhere in between, lies the unspoken norms of redeeming social hypocrisy which is when we find ourselves more tolerant than we pretend to be.

 

Pedophilia, nowadays deemed aberrant and cruel when acted upon, means sexual attraction to the prepubescent, to children, who do not yet feature even the most subtle adult physical sexual characteristics. But what is pederasty? Pederasty means attractions to the budding physical sexuality of particularly young adolescents. However, not withstanding socialization, indeed far from aberration, physical attraction to others showing adult sexual characteristics, even across any age range, remains medically and psychologically normal, socialization to the contrary notwithstanding. Hence, precisely what distinguishes pederasty? The medical consensus is that actually definition remains unclear. And all as entirely distinct from statutory rape under the law, wherein age of consent varies between jurisdictions. Conflating the different concepts remains a flagrant molestation of the English language!

 

Beyond simple pandering to shock value and titillation, and propaganda of one kind or another, whether demonizing or sanctifying, one way or another blatantly leading the reader or viewer exactly how to feel, good fiction writing and characterization demands of the author not only conflict, but knowledge of and sympathy with whatever the subject matter at hand in order for the readers or viewers then to think for themselves. And whatever subject matter at hand, in order to be dramatic, must be some aspect of human nature and situation, the human condition (or on STAR TREK, "The Human Equation," ever problematical. ) And intergenerational fraternization is a long tried and true theme so ever fascinatingly redolent with all the ambivalence as reflected in the subtle subtext of redeeming social hypocrisy and the subtleties of sensibilities, manners and mores more tolerant than they pretend to be, of such dramatic potential for situation and building the tension of every Technique of Suspense with outcome in doubt, for good or evil, happiness or suffering, with all manner of additional obstacles to all of those already standard and well familiar to Romance and adventure. And yet the all too familiar foibles of May / December Romance make for common, ordinary, tawdry and endless sitcom fodder, often in conjunction with the banalities of midlife crisis. - Neither drama, trauma nor stigma of taboo end entirely with boundaries explicitly demarcated by law. Nevertheless, for all the protestation and shock of eternal and so often immature, obsessive and socially inept Moralistic vigilance, in truth sexual fascinations between younger and older, no matter how awkward, risqué or even downright dangerous, is really nothing new, but perhaps the most universal and plain vanilla of kinks, if even to call it so. Every curiosity, any guilty pleasure under the sun, is pandered to in every media ('Barely Legal' magazine notoriously endures as perhaps the top selling pornographic print publication in the world), and the experience common and entirely relatable amongst functioning individuals, as well bourn out by the mass of statistics and study. And among the perhaps less unflattering trope formulaic rationalizations thereof, are the quest for any sort of parent figure reciprocated by any nurturing instinct. Or perhaps transgression of the generation gap transcends Eternity! But as concerns drama as in life, the truth may be at all less magical: sexuality and  age difference merely presenting additional complication:

 

Understanding the popular allure and fascination of intergenerational encounters and relationships in life and in art 

 

One way or another, anyone drawn close to one another howsoever despite having no apparent business being together by every social norm, might well be strongly motivated, one way or another to merit meaningful study in human nature well beyond the empty and simplistic pandering of Moralism. After all, we are stronger for our differences: In the normal course of life and individual expanding connection into the world at large, there may often be illuminating value for a older person in any kind of individual personal relationship with any younger person less estranged than the younger persons integrated into dysfunctional family and formal institutional circles. Not only do the young benefit from the experience and sagacity of their elders, particularly outside of family circles and formal institutions, but interaction with younger people may be crucial to keeping older people open minded and in touch with a changing world.  Hence whatever conditions of segregation are a conservative device for keeping us all in the dark and forestall any collusion, so threatening to whatever status quo.

 

 “The teenager seems to have replaced the Communist as the appropriate target for public controversy and foreboding.”  — Edgar Friedenberg, The Vanishing Adolescent

“The soul is born old but grows young. That is the comedy of life. And the body is born young and grows old. That is life's tragedy.”  — Oscar Wilde 

Sociometric profiling, matching and the subtleties of mutual admiration: reciprocal rôle-modeling: To begin with, people all need not only to share anything in common, but need to look up to for any more advanced personal assets or qualities of character, situation and perspective or POV. Indeed, compatibility is well understood to depend upon crucial similarities and differences, too. Indeed, people are well understood to be drawn to others to whom they identify because they share one quality of value to them, and whom they can also look up to because of another shared quality or growth potential in which the other howsoever exceeds them. If the other reciprocates likewise seeing some shared valued quality and also some superior aspect to look up to in the other, then they may connect. Indeed, there are no end of combinatory variations, optimization however becoming statistically the more frustrating, the greater or more unique intelligence, talent and disposition, especially for the gifted so often known for propensity towards such markedly uneven asynchronous development, beyond their age group in seriousness and intimacy needs and concepts of friendship, perhaps even while falling behind in other capacities and characteristics, perhaps even social aptitude in particular. And also, there will always be individuals whom as they advance in years yet remaining at all vital, may be disappointed to find their own age group peers increasingly stodgy, antisocial, unapproachable or insular, even as often married and in retreat from old friends much less cultivating new relationships or any kind in order not to retreat from society.  

 

Hence all manner of relationships between younger and older gifted peers may be not only inevitable but actually ever more crucial in a population increasingly consisting of the neglected and abused gifted and atypical or: twice exceptional, gifted yet with learning disabilities, indeed, ongoing products of lifelong asynchronous development, perhaps, for example, even emotionally advanced in relationship needs, yet falling behind and awkward socially and also perhaps somewhat indifferent to arbitrary seeming social norms. Though advancing technology is ever in the habit of eventual overthrow of biological destiny, nevertheless for the time being, even the twice exceptional must eventually come into puberty and then age along with everyone else. Indeed, Platonically to begin with, let alone anything more, the widespread mediocrity of generation gap has arisen a norm specifically of post industrial society, yet necessarily predicated upon typical and uniform synchronous development. (Well, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.) 

 

All to often, ordinary people at all squeamish, in unstated deference to the superiority of Empirical  Case Based Reasoning over rules based reasoning, will then soften their attitude, often coming to accept all manner of unconventional relationships as fait accompli when they become better acquainted with those involved. Such is the common and ordinary subtle subtext of redeeming social hypocrisy oi manners, mores and sensibilities more tolerant than we pretend to be. a social and psychological coping process for ambivalence, that on the one hand  becomes quite needless to more open tolerance, and on the other hand, that so completely eludes the even comically over parented drearily consistent Manichean black or white thinking social ineptitude and deeper more deadly and destructive hypocrisy of Moralist fanatics, cronies and bullies. But those most hateful and scandalized in actingout,, quite refuse to imagine just how casually many others take such entire matters as of May/December or intergenerational fraternization amongst other far stranger practices, while the  many who are more ideologically permissive and do not happen to interact with the former group, are surprised that anyone else is still at all the more agitated and "uptight" and therefore take no action. Even through the ever ebbing pendulum of social attitudes, both factions often remain even seemingly oblivious to the other's very existence until personal contact and friction. Only those few actively campaigning even to actually lower age of consent, seem at all aware of themselves as opposition within a spectrum of tolerance and intolerance / zero-tolerance. Thus, when the factions are in such denial about being so out of step, can there persist so unhealthy insular delusion of consensus in effective concealment of controversy upon any such a charged and polarizing social issue.  Only in academia amongst professional researcher and advocates, interested and knowledgable, does collegial debate actually thrive. Only the dramatization of controversy serves to inform the masses, beyond just going with our guts.

 

                                                                                                                                                            So just imagine boldly chalking out on the blackboard:

 Premise: All (Heterosexual?) even potentially non Platonic intergenerational fraternization is (intrinsically?) bad, shameful, improper, untoward.                                    

 Corollary:  Nothing good, no functional legitimate beneficial need or desire is ever thereby served. (THEY can never love as WE do.)                                                      

 Conclusion: For the greater good, even appearance, impression or very thought of such as above must be prevented or curtailed by any unquestioned means necessary. 

 

So, who in their right minds can actually be so gullible as to foment such mindless taboo and endorse any so simplistic and half-baked and reactionary a mandate of social intervention? 

 

Consistency would only be melodramatically typical of Manichean culture-war, and inconsistency hypocritical, whether into abusive deadly hypocrisy and self-serving exploitation, or into redeeeming social hypocrisy and covert tolerance. The more normal it is to feel different, the less all-important it becomes it may seem to meet the expectations of others. Persecuted unorthodox relationships become all the more threatening, the more ordinary they actually turn out to be. And nowhere does this apply more than with intergenerational fraternization, the attraction being so pervasive, highly charged, ever naughty and scandalous yet easily relatable. The even implausibly villainous and loony implicit premise or mandate in question above on our hypothetical blackboard, merely serves rhetorically and at the risk of straw man argument, because by very nature, no such clear statement of any given taboo is typically ever formulated or made available for critical scrutiny. We therefore all too often find ourselves left to our own sense of amazement for best surmise. Of course, no matter the volume of however solid the supporting corroboration, let alone mere unexamined convictions however strong, scientifically, all can be overturned at any time by only one counter example serving as Popper's black swan, refutation. And regarding our hypothetical blackboard dogma as above, to the serious student of human nature, the absence of any counter example would be the more surprising than finding one, indeed of which there are so many, indeed, as must be ignored or dismissed one way or another by the closed minded.

 

One needn't press ones reach into fantastic Science Fiction: Quite simply, real history and modern life are likewise replete with entirely sympathetic, perfectly functional and positive encounters and relationships, even grand epic great loves, between the most unlikely and different individuals, age disparity being quite the least imaginative of forbidden love. Nevertheless, the evocation of petty burning jealousy, a ready spark of conflict and strife, even at the merest hint of romantic interest, is hardly uncommon as an obstacle in reality as so consistently reflected drama. Little wonder then, the prevalence and popular appeal of the theme, so relatable and yet somehow at all still naughty and scandalous, in works of fiction.

 

The struggle against such exploitation as arranged marriage and human trafficking remains an uphill battle. But among those so fortunate as to abide in liberty from such oppression, even precisely because of social progress and liberation from exploitation and violence, inevitably there has always been the that spark of May/December romance, common and natural reciprocal attraction despite or even because of significant age difference. To state the obvious, it isn't surprising for young people to crush on their elders, any more than for older folks to find their juniors extremely attractive. And the tawdry truth won't just vanish to accommodate the ruffled sensibilities of others. Dramatic conflict, ever looming, remains inevitable. One response to however real and serious problems and dangers, age of consent statutes nevertheless criminalize normal and natural impulses, a measure which is, however well intentioned, in a word: Reactionary and often more harmful than helpful. Nevertheless, in clear and present danger to the most vulnerable, there will be the sense of urgency that something must be done, perhaps even no matter how Reactionary, desperate and repressive! All to often, however, in any Moralistic mandate of cockblocking, self-serving hypocrisy, exploitation and abuse, especially of the most trusting and vulnerable, runs rampant and unchecked. This is how the evil flourishes: All along, the proverbial foxes have been guarding the metaphorical henhouse.

 

Alas, the failed Moralistic strategy of fighting exploitation and abuse by demonizing root desire, endures in popularity. In the words of H. G. Wells: “Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo.” Instead, perhaps any more enlightened, constructive and sympathetic response may be more helpful. And indeed, strategies and sensibilities societal response vary widely with milieu cross culture and throughout history, let alone all that can be imagined in fantasy and Science Fiction. What as yet remains biologically consistent is how children grow into puberty, begin manifesting sexual characteristics, and opening up at ones own pace, become sexually aroused by observable sexual characteristics in others reciprocally likewise sexually interesting. It isn't a three tiered process. Human children do not turn into dogs, sexually interested only in other dogs and staying that way for whatever designated respectable number of years, and only later on transforming again but into cats, only sexually interested in other cats. Therefore, obviously, entirely social barriers are always bound to come into ready made dramatic conflict with with natural motivating drives.

 

Whereas in propaganda pandering and advertising manipulation, hate speech and fear mongering, the audience is blatantly instructed what are their needs and the dangers and then prompted and cued exactly what to feel, "In a good play, everyone is right." In dramatizing controversy, good motivated and dramatic dialogue makes it hard to tell who is right and who is wrong. Capable drama with dimension and substance, whether as merely imagined in in fiction or even true ife drama as agitated by political activism and intervention into social evolution, can only begin by more socially responsible thematic exploration and delicacy towards human frailty, with believable complication motivated from conflicting priorities out of controversy over genuinely interesting problems and issues, even more taboo.

 

 

• Deltans, Polynesians and Bonobos, oh my! •

	Trusting and naive ingénue or conniving coquette?
A provocation: What, porn stars as rôle models? Why not? Taboo, stigma and repression notwithstanding, everybody loves porn stars! What's not to love? Why fear and hate? Porn stars archetypically portray as healthy, outgoing, cheerfully eager and adventurous, assertive, ready and available for anything! What more would one want to have? What more would one want to be? And all it takes is the right aphrodisiac dosage. Barbarella might be a better person than Jane Fonda, but that's easier when you're fictional. Porn star archetypical fantasy celebrates an ideal of the purest and unfettered hedonic will to power and the civic pride of Babylon! It's only social reality that ever falls short.

 

 

 

 

 

 Progress free from dramatic obstacle is sheer wish fulfillment!

 

 

“When authorities warn you of the [dangers] sinfulness of [having] sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities.”  — Matt Groening, 'Life In Hell' citation from 'Basic Sex Facts For Today's [Youngsters] Young Folk'

 

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Provocative dress, expression and conduct, sheer lewdness and licentious vulgarity, is a fundamental right, and lots of fun: When individuals are isolated, intimidated and fear to simply reach out to one another in attraction and for gratification, we will only be dominated and exploited by those better connected and privileged.

Pandering if not as literally to act as a go-between or liaison in sexual intrigues or function as a procurer, denotes similarly even however vicariously to cater to the lower tastes and desires and wish fulfillment fantasies of others or most specifically, thereby to titillate and exploit their weaknesses, as even by the most obsequious flattery in the guise of affirmation, validation, and even thereby exploitatively winning unearned trust by ploys of however manipulative and dishonest  propaganda manipulation outright, even demagoguery. 

Sex sells. Such emotional appeals or motivation, to the heart, passions, sympathies, gut feelings or even the lowest common denominators of self serving rationalization to malice, jealous rage, outright devilry of thinly disguised hate speech and self loathing. Quintessentially, the transparent lies of the Faux News deceive no one, rather they pander irrationally. Blatant hate and fear mongering propaganda panders to any lowest common denominator of basest instinct, also include loaded or slanted emotional appeal employing language that is calculated to get a particular reaction from readers. Pandering and hence the repertoire of propaganda, also includes out and out sob stories and soppy sentimental tearjerkers, even to be rated by the number of hankies needed! manipulating readers' emotions in order to lead them to draw however unwarranted or poorly supported and even well refutable conclusions.

The three motivating principle cofactors in effective manipulation also applicable in pandering, propagandistically or otherwise, are whatever the incentive and disincentive vulnerabilities of the target or targets, the tactics of the manipulator(s), and time for the relationship to develop under whatever conditions, free or captive.

The phenomenon of manipulation is best defined as undue advantage from trickery via the exploitation of affective innate and conditioned triggers or "push buttons" to undermine and overwhelm, even barrage, resistance, caution, better judgment and autonomy of the target, via insidiously motivating subtext of emotional positive incentive and negative disincentive. –As distinct from open coercion alone or substantive disinformation, lies. Typically, the manipulator obfuscates the nature of their coercion exercised, along with whatever self-serving advantage thereof, whatever their own ultimate motivation.

Positive incentive manipulation or pandering is such as deviously appeals to value in fantasy and desire, love, sex greed, promoting false hope of whatever gain, in order to circumvent or overwhelm resistance, caution, better judgment and autonomy of the target. Whereas an example of negative disincentive manipulation, such insult as condescension that after all comes of love can be less painful than insult that comes without it, or more so, or equally so, as the case may be: but be that as it may, it is, in any case significantly more harmful. This is because insult provokes anger and hostility, but hostility towards people who even sincerely profess to love you and act on your own best interest is curbed and turned inwards, internalized, and experienced on the level of inner conflict of self-hostility, namely guilt. Such deceptive appeals undermining the target’s credulity and defenses even whilst actually exercising coercion constitute often likewise internalized flagrantly manipulative behavior, conscious or unconscious, selfish, indifferent or just desperate. 

Though certainly, there are, always, of course, if not drama per se, then other whatever loftier social or entirely artistic aims in any subject matter, delicate or indelicate, then again, for writers no less than their characters, pandering and personal disclosure alike often present such blocks and barriers of inhibition to overcome as self-consciousness or even sheer anhedonic Moralism and squeamishness outright.

Stories are made memorable not merely in whatever empathy or curiosity merely as to the plot situation, but because of the reader or audience relationship, actual motivated feelings elicited for or even against the characters. And any motivation may do!

Yes, leave us face it, sex appeal may simply pander to sensationalism and/or flights of fantasy, escapism and wish fulfillment for the reader's guilty vicarious pleasure. After all, as the old saying goes, sex sells! Blatant or subtle. Certainly, the erotic is a value, indeed, an  aesthetic category.

WAR IS PEACE, FREEDOM IS SLAVERY, IGNORANCE IS STRENGTH - and leave us not forget: Death is glorious Life Eternal! The first rule of propaganda pandering, is that anything can most readily be either glamorized or vilified, formulaically, so that in the slippery slide from willing suspension of disbelief into the tenacity of utter credulity, vivid illustration takes on the very semblance of airtight convincing demonstration. After all, seeing is believing, as the old platitude goes, but ultimately, it is the mind and not the eye that sees. Never mind what history actually teaches us. In the vivid pandering of unfettered propaganda fantasy that pretends all manner of daring and provocative perspective, slaves can be happy, totalitarianism efficient and humane, and even wild sex a real drag until the protagonist finds God! Even life and survival can be made wearisome and disgusting, heightened and ecstatic only by the thrill of self destruction, so that death itself may be extolled as transcendent and beatific release from all cares and woe, indeed in ultimate crowning realization of the Zen Mystic's quest for futility, committed sacrifice making way for return to innocence in generations to come. 

“The nature of a novel is that it has no opinions, only the dialectic of contrary views, some of which, all of which, may be untenable and even silly.”  — Anthony Burgess  

• Deathism and sour grapes

"genres that are most popular tend to offer magical resolutions to irreconcilable social problems and tensions."

 

-The utopian fantasy of Deep Throat  

But, please GHOD not just the belabored bludgeoning obsessions of the writer! Only tiresome zealots need to be pandered to and stoked upon every single point of dogmatic ideology. Of course, the most truly destructive is manipulative dishonest propaganda pandering to hypocritisy. But if POV will not be thoughtful and literate, then, at least let us have good trash, pandering if we must, self indulgence of the reader, not the writer, grabbing the readers, not beating them over the head. Remember to evoke the senses, show don't tell action that actually advances the plot. And building the tension of every Technique of Suspense plotting, even in vicarious pandering, depends upon pacing.

Because, to follow another old saying, capable writing still reveals something about human nature. Even sheer vicarious pandering in it's appeal to the universal fantasies of the audience. While bad self indulgent obsessive writing reveals far too much about the author. Particularly when it comes to such awkward self indulgence that only displays whatever especially obsessive proverbial "axe to grind", personal preoccupation, attachment or morbid fixation, prurient or otherwise, to the exclusion of all else.

Prolong the Agony by making life difficult so as to motivate characters. Don't be nice to your character! No Powderpuff Pitty-Pat! Even pander to vicarious wish fulfillment, but also inspire pathos, anticipation, every Technique of Suspense plotting even dread and even the discomfort of sheer aversion. Stir any range of emotions and force the reader to empathize, to feel. That's what makes for good entertainment, a real page turner.

And so, leave us never forget error checking, but learn a lesson in writing about sex, from the euphemistically symbolic to the clinically explicit, even the descriptive vocabulary and naming of body parts! from the past winners of The Literary Review's Bad Sex Award bestowed upon the most pretentious, tasteless, embarrassing, otiose, self-infatuated or redundant description of the sexual act published during the past year.

Nevertheless, perhaps the most debilitating of all fetish to fiction writing remains the overwhelming and unthinking compulsion to censor or to Bowdlerize. Again, of necessity, the key in writing "child safe" to any younger audience or to any other tender sensibility, is never true and utter expurgation, but simply in toning down anything even remotely explicit, skirting the central question by mere tender suggestion, leaving characterization, motivation and drama intact.

‘Anyone who attempts to render sexual experience directly must face the fact that the writings which comprise it are ludicrous without their subjective content.’   — Elizabeth Benedict, Joy of Writing Sex

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        [Indeed, if not somewhat clinical, or perhaps, then again: Tantric ]

The surreally kinky fairytale of Stockholm Syndrome

Moralism is Justificationist and motivated from the Transactional inner controlling parent and/or compliantly decidophobic inner adaptive child, demanding impossible and unnecessary justification in objective grounds for ethics, often in moral heteronomy to God , thereby rejecting as imperfect, all conjecture, evidence and refutation from criticality available only to the Transactional adult ego state. Masochism and heteronymous submission come in reaction formation in order for the neurotic individual to function and seek gratification at all, even while coping with overwhelming and paralytic feelings of guilt. Reciprocally, moralistic voyeurism panders to, relishes and delights in even while burning with envy towards, all that it so Sadistically and judgmentally condemns. 

Moralism hypocritically panders to and whitewashes unsympathetic fetish objectification in voyeuristic titillation and Sadistically delicious overture to self righteous self serving and envy, thus  providing alibi and denial along with impunity in appeal to evil, mobbing, shunning,  bullying, ostracism, repression both in the individual psyche and in society, the glorification of controlling judgmental sex negative jealousy actingout,  as somehow or other actually pro-social and benevolent. But of course, all such revolting pretence aside, hypocritical  cockblockers are monumentally self serving, not philanthropic at all!

Indeed, various manipulative and destructive cliques, particularly obscurantist cults and scams, exploit Stockholm Syndrome (prevalent in varying degrees) to draw in the mark in vein hope that things will begin to make more sense as the mystery unfolds. Alas, real life happy endings are never guaranteed in the face of passivity and love conquers nothing without backbone and the courage for individual growth.

Alas, there are always those so tragically hardcore and deeply disturbed, genuinely masochistic and anhedonic, that only real danger and self destruction remain enticing, acceptable and licit.

• Satanism and Sadomasochistic edge-play

All all others more fortunate, need never let reality spoil a good fantasy! Few would actually conclude that if war movies are good, then actual combat experience must be even better! Thankfully, just as roller coasters and other popular "barf-rides" harmlessly simulate the thrill of a nearly averited vehicular disaster, classic fairytale ravishment, bondage and captivity fantasies and erotic rôle-play can safely liberate into fantasy and teasing sexual foreplay all the classic drama or shameless melodrama, as the case may be, forbidden thrill and every other Technique of Suspense plotting, desperate approval seeking, of hope toyed with, of the captive struggling seductively to win whatever small kindness of the threatening captor or attacker and survive, and all manner of desperate desire to be expressed, received and gratidied in an all to blatant and obvious paradoxical intention of "Reverse Psychology."

• Eustress and distress

   said Briar Rabbit...

(Oh, don't tease me, please me!)

Indeed, the kinky fairytale of Stockholm Syndrome, by adamant denial unfettered beyond the burdensome restraints logical contradictions in hard reality, all of the unflagging faith, goodness empathy and connection of the innocent and unrecognized virtuous victimized princess soiled dove, can in the flights of fantasy of impromptu Psychodrama, finally and truly be vindicated by finally at long last redeeming their own unflagging faith in the biggest jerk, most hopeless confirmed loser or even the very worst villain, abuser or bully! I knew there was good in you, Daddy...

            Well, spank me!

So much better than the real thing, baby!

Kinky fairytale ravishment, bondage and captivity fantasies of erotic rôle-play & surreal psychodrama provide safe escapist outlet, ardent and docile submission free from the anxiety that comes with volition, responsibility and guilty longing to express desire and likewise to be desired desperately. As ever, what heightens drama imaginatively, increases suffering in real life. Specifically, hot and sticky rape fantasies are to the ugly reality, as garish carnival barf-rides are to the actual car accidents they simulate.

Bitch inheat seeks     Partner in crime

For indeed, whereas, of course, true life captivity and domination typically feature only cavalier indifferent neglect, manipulative abuse and exploitation, the resentment and dependency of Stockholm Syndrome (prevalent in varying degrees) even of the fairest damsel in distress ever "protected,"  inspires in poignant denial and rationalization all the appealing passionate fantasies of desperate desire, romantic, kinky or even mystical, indeed partaking of even melodramatic fairytale surrealism, hallucinatory Stockholm Syndrome doublethink in sheer unconcern for reality to the extent of such tremendous gaps in plot logic and believable character motivation, either deadly in earnest, or all even just for ribald laughs and camp comedic parody.

Consumed in Ulterior Transactional quest for Existential Validation that all the suffering will eventually pay off, the Masochist, in typically feminine sexrole, perennially motivated by such extremely poor self esteem, does not merely take the bad with the good, but will not accept the good, if at all, except together with the bad. Trauma and betrayal increasingly undermine proactive initiative, often substituting irresponsible passive dependency upon manipulation and exploitation by others together with veritable aversion to genuine nurture that only risks vulnerability and disappointment.

Fantasy and denial come in surreal malignant optimism, sublimation explaining away hostility and abuse as expression of love, control and callous indifference as passion and desire, and imagining that there can be any resolution or happy ending for helplessness in toxic relationship, in hoping to reform, lame bad boys, bullying douchebags and outright scheming Malignant Narcissistic sociopaths, whist self sabotagingly shunning any one better.

The delusions are dangerous, sad and doomed. Not all that is intense is intensely good. The realism of edge-play is for losers. But the exploration of fantasies running hot and deep, affords safer outlet, confronting our fears in drama, mocking them in farce, and even the experience of impossible gratification and vindication in defiance of all logic via sheer imagination in Psychodrama.

• arousal and orgasmic rape
• Blood 'n' guts In-yer-face  angst does not equal depth
• Satanism and Sadomasochist debauchery of edge-play

also serving as series "bible" for Star Trek: The Ship of Fool

Q. Why the title? 

A. The Ship of Fools, sacred fools, is a classical allegory of the human condition, blind and impulsive in hopes of salvation. And Star Trek: The Ship of Fools is a tale of encounter with the unknown from Rashuman-like multiple perspective, and corresponding dramatic conflict on many levels from clashing motivation. 

Hieronymus Bosch • Annotated • schooled fools • yellowdog

Synopsis: Meet Sienna Exeter, also known as Burnt Sienna or SEXtER for short, always seen grinning wickedly, her thumbs dancing across the controls if her smart phone at lightening speed. For petite and elfin SEXtER is community organizer, renowned in the community for her ready wit and mastery of humorous vulgar double entendre and innuendo in to the most routine and pedestrian communication. But little does anyone suspect the darker purpose concealed behind all of SEXtER's clowning. For ensnaring her prey with provocative SMS, SEXtER goes meting out her own brand of poetic justice upon all manner of sex offenders, either who have evaded the law, or are devious enough to operate with impunity. SEXtER regularly volunteers at a rape crisis center, where her sense of humor is overlooked as coping with her own secret traumas, and in light of her dedication and hard work, in order to track down fresh leads. An expert in hand to hand combat and immobilizing wrestling holds, SEXtER sports a strap on for sodomizing serial rapists flouting the law. Her quarry strapped over a barrel, petite SEXtER sometimes rides on the back of Wooly Gruff, a large tumescent goat that she helps care for at the local community farm and petting zoo, and takes for the occasional walk. SEXtER  captures spouse beaters (mostly male, but not all) in order to keep them as sissified domestic slaves! SEXtER stalks, infiltrates and brutally humiliates and intimidates privileged and powerful corporate sexual harassers, and then silences them by blackmail. SEXtER robs and breaks the heart of an amoral sweetheart scammer, and returns the ill gotten gains to the victims. SEXtER dishes out penance to a rehab group of pedophile priests under church protection and cover up. Then one day at the rape crisis center, SEXtER discovers several vulnerable rape victims being driven away, facing further abuse from serial false accuser whom SEXtER  immediately recognizes as an old crony of the corporate sexual harasser, a Munchausen demanding all the attention for herself exclusively and who seriously undermines operations at the rape crisis center with her constant intrigues and actingout. So SEXtER exposes her and destroys her credibility, and then later rapes her. And as with the fabled boy who cried wolf, no one believes or sympathizes anymore.

SEXtER, finally gets a lead on her own brutal serial rape gang and takes savage revenge. Meanwhile, as SEXtER learns, the serial false accuser, a fragile personality as it turns out, has made a suicide attempt. And then one of the rape gang, a fugitive from the law, dies from infection and intestinal hemorrhage before SEXtER can track him down again and drag him forcibly to the hospital. And this last incident finally brings SEXtER onto DEXtER's proverbial radar, as SEXtER finally begins wrestling with doubt and remorse. DEXtER intercepts the identification of Sienna Exeter from genetic markers in traces remaining on the dead rapist, and then derails the investigation in order to have this new prey all to himself. DEXtER then begins tracking down SEXtER even as SEXtER hunts the leader of the brutal rape gang whom SEXtER then engages in epic battle. Finally, with his own long ago brutalizer at his mercy, SEXtER savors the moment. But the hardened leader of the rape gang remains uncowed, and spits right in SEXtER's eye, laughing that nothing SEXtER can do to him will be any worse than what he has already endured many times in his own life. Stunned in a flash of insight, SEXtER finds herself identifying with her nemesis, and commits the ironically ultimate and unendurable invalidating cruelty in forgiveness, turning her back and walking away forever. DEXtER, having arrived just in time to bear witness, muses that SEXtER has accomplished that which has so long eluded DEXtER, by overcoming and leaving behind the dark passenger of obsession and violence. However, as fate would have it, the leader of the rape gang is also a killer, now at DEXtER's mercy! But the leader of the rape gang, finding himself cornered all over again, loses his nerve summarily and botches a suicide attempt. SEXtER finding him in this condition, confesses to him her true motivating frustration: She has never again been able to experience as powerful an orgasm as she did at his hands! 

SEXtER then goes through some changes, finding herself increasingly irritated with the daunting task of trying to bring another devious and elusive sex criminal, a greatly esteemed and influential Greek drama professor, to justice, instead of simply meting it out herself. DEXtER is intrigued with SEXtER, not only because SEXtER has seemingly overcome her own violence, but because to begin with, whereas DEXtER's relationship with his quarry must end, SEXtER continues to learn from her's. Behind the scenes, DEXtER tries to help bring SEXtER's quarry to justice before SEXtER in her mounting impatience, suffers a relapse into her old ways. DEXtER even cultivates a relationship with SEXtER's quarry. But all to no avail. When SEXtER finally snaps, and dishes out to her quarry, a strong dose of the his own medicine, DEXtER achieves the tragic discovery and self recognition called anagnorisis: Whereas even with closure and her life long rage at last quelled, SEXtER's moral indignation remains both enflamed and moderated by true compassion, DEXtER ever strives merely to constructively channel his own insatiable darkness and violence.

Technological advancements in cybersex: In the words of Paul Raven: “Science Fiction isn’t dying at all; it’s metastasizing!”  That old parody of pioneering Internet videoconferencing client CU-SeeMe, FuckU- FuckMe (tm) has at last been newly realized in the Lovense Lush teledildonics smart dildo: What is that sexy slender neon hot pink flexible little rod nowadays peeping out from every webcam girl's otherwise still inaccessible though provocatively exposed tight and tone little shaved vagina? Why, it's a blue tooth antenna to activate a sanitary recessed vibrator comfortably nested up in there, every time said webcam girl receives another electronic payment via her chartroom! Now, money really has become an aphrodisiac! What are the implications?

The Sweetheart Scammer

• Erotica Factor
• How to Approach Sexual Writings
• Hell Workshop
• Wikipedia: Sex in Science Fiction
• evolutionary sexuality at Space and Motion 

• A Billion Wicked Thoughts: Differences sex writing for men and women

The apologetics of Zen Mysticism argues for Moralism thus: Babies have yet to learn any demarcation between themselves and their environment. Innocent babies then are thought to be still at one with the universe. Dichotomous thinking and duality of much and unjustly maligned ego, then develop and arise out from infancy, and thence, or so we are emphatically assured, bad karma, unhappiness actingout hostility and strife. We are all imperfect, misguided, unenlightened and prone to projection instead of owning our own feelings. And our troubles can be overcome only by recovery of the lost innocence and spontaneous child-like joy of infantile oneness by the purging of desire according to Nirvana Principle (contentment and freedom from the suffering of frustration and derivation, via the elimination of needs -because that's what babies are all about, right?) and the quelling of adult ego reflection and distraction, of abstract reasoning, from the subjective Phenomena. -In short, by the eradication of self and selfishness.